I have been a financial advisor for nearly two decades. I have worked inside large institutions and built my own firm. And I can tell you with complete honesty that not all financial advisors are created equal.

Some are excellent. Some are mediocre. And some are genuinely not working in your interest, even if they seem confident and credentialed.

I say that not to scare you away from getting professional help. Quite the opposite. A good financial advisor is one of the most valuable relationships you can have, especially in midlife when the decisions you make now have real consequences for the next 20 or 30 years. I say it because I want you to know what to look for, what questions to ask, and what should give you pause.

Here is how to choose a financial advisor who is actually right for you.

Here is something I see constantly in my work with women.

She has been in her role for years. She is good at it. She has taken on more responsibility than her job description ever anticipated. And she has not asked for a raise in a very long time, maybe ever, because it feels awkward or presumptuous or like she should just be grateful for what she has.

And the longer she waits, the more it costs her. Not just today. Every year she is underpaid compounds. It affects her bonuses, her retirement contributions, her Social Security calculation, and every raise that builds on that base going forward.

Asking for a raise is not aggressive. It is not arrogant. It is one of the most financially consequential things you can do, especially in midlife when you are in the prime earning years that matter most for building wealth and funding the retirement you actually want.

Here is how to do it.

Start With Clarity: Know What You Are Worth and What You Want

The first pillar of the Intentional Mo...

One of the most common money questions I hear from parents has nothing to do with their own finances.

It is this: should I give my kids an allowance?

And the honest answer is: it depends. Not because the question is complicated, but because the right approach for your family depends on your values, your kids' ages, and what you actually want them to learn.

Here is what I know after nearly two decades as a financial planner and as a parent of three: the allowance itself is not the point. The point is the money habits and beliefs you are building in your kids right now. Those habits will follow them into adulthood, into their careers, into their marriages, and into how they handle their own financial lives someday.

That is why I think about allowance through the lens of the first pillar of the Intentional Money Method: Clarity. Before you decide what system to use, get clear on what you actually want your kids to learn. Earning? Saving? Delayed gratification? Contribution to the fami...

Back to school used to mean a Target run for crayons and a new lunchbox.

Now it means dorm furniture, laptop upgrades, activity fees, a car on your insurance, maybe a first apartment. The list got shorter. The price tag did not.

I work with women every day who are doing the math on their own financial goals while also trying to launch their kids into the world. You want to show up for your family. You also need to protect your financial future. Both things are true at the same time.

Here are five ways to approach back to school spending at this stage of life.

1. Separate Needs From Wants Before You Open Your Wallet

Walk through the list before you buy anything.

Does your kid actually need a new laptop, or does last year's model still run fine? Do they need a full dorm refresh, or do they just want one? These are different questions with different answers.

College students especially should wait until syllabi are posted before buying supplies. You find out exactly what is require...

Your kids are watching you with money. They always have been.

Not in the formal, sit-down-and-teach-a-lesson kind of way. In the ambient, everyday kind of way. They watch how you react when an unexpected bill arrives. They notice the tension in your voice when money comes up. They absorb your beliefs about what is possible, what is safe, what people like us do with money.

Long before they ever open a bank account, your kids are building their money beliefs from what they see in you.

That is both a responsibility and an opportunity. And it does not expire when they turn 18.

If you are in midlife, you are likely parenting across a wide range of ages right now. Maybe you have teenagers at home and a college student simultaneously. Maybe your kids are already launched and you are wondering what money messages stuck and which ones you wish you had done differently. Maybe you are rebuilding your own financial foundation and you want to do it in a way that models something better than wha...