The holidays are full of emotions whether you’re single, married, newly divorced, remarried, or divorced for a while. That isn’t an exhaustive list by any means, so suffice to say that the holidays can bring up complicated emotions. As a matter of fact, it is immediately after this time when divorce filing rates spike.
Should you be contemplating divorce right now, know that you are not alone. Here are a few resources to help you weather the storm so you can thrive after divorce! In this post, I share links across all facets of my specialties from Great Lakes Divorce Financial Solutions and Great Lakes Investment Management. If you’re interested in diving further into their topic, I’d suggest browsing the blogs on those sites as I have a ton more information and I couldn’t link to all of it!
One of the first things I usually hear when I work with couples at Great Lakes Divorce Financial Solutions is that one person handled the finances, leaving the other unsure and confused over where to start and how to maintain their income and lifestyle.
If you are employed, one way to increase your income is by asking for a raise. If this is uncomfortable for you (don’t worry, it is for many) or you haven’t negotiated a raise in a while, brush up on these tips to ask for a raise when you’re underpaid.
Should you be looking for employment for the first time or for the first time after taking a break, here are some tips to help you negotiate a higher starting salary and how to face your fear of going back to work.
Another way to increase your income while you’re looking for a traditional job or starting a business is through blogging. If you have an idea and something to say, you can write about it! And don’t think you must have a perfect plan before you can jump into the blogging world. In fact, some of the most popular blogs are written from the perspective of not having it all figured out. Learn how to start a blog and make money right here
I’d be remiss if I didn’t mention budgeting and making a plan for your money. While I have many posts on the subject of budgeting, debt, and money management, I’d recommend you start with a simple planner to help you get a handle on all your incoming and outgoing money. You may also want to expand on that with my Fund Your Freedom Bundle to help you gain confidence in your financial abilities and show you that you can be good with money!
If you’re ready to move into an advanced stage of money management, I’d suggest you begin investing right away! As a Certified Divorce Financial Advisor, I help women figure out how to divide assets and create a plan that allows you to be in control of your finances so you can be secure for years to come.
Here are a few tips to help you along when you’re just starting to invest and how to invest even if you aren’t rich yet. I also have a breakdown for using investments to buy a new home or other major financial goals that may be helpful to set the stage for you to think long-term so you can thrive after divorce (and still have a thriving retirement and send your kids to college to boot!).
Take it from me, the mindset piece for thriving after divorce can be tricky. Divorce is one of the most stressful and most expensive transactions you will go through in your life. However, the other side will be so much better, so keep that in mind when you feel your resolve slipping and think it may just be better to stay where you are.
It could be helpful to understand the difference between feelings and emotions (and how to break the pattern of each so you can easily cope with them. Then, these 5 mindset shifts will help you focus on the future and how you’ll thrive after divorce, even if you’re in a bit of a spiral right now.
I found it really helpful to journal when I was going through my divorce. It allowed me to have a safe, private place to record feelings and sort through emotions. It also helped me change my mindset and look toward the future instead of in the rearview mirror. Here are 30 journal prompts you can use to begin your practice.
Not all divorcing couples have children, but if you do, co-parenting will be a subject that comes up. Just as much as you want to thrive after divorce, you’ll want your kids to thrive even more. The transition time may be challenging, but it will smooth out in time and with consistency. Here are a few children’s books that will help you talk to your kids about your divorce so they understand what’s going on and my journey of learning to be a successful co-parent (that you can learn from, too!).
At the end of the day, if you are contemplating divorce, know that you are not alone. The reality is that there are many partnerships out there that just aren’t the right pairings. While it may not bring comfort to you immediately, hopefully knowing that there are others who have thrived after divorce (and who are going through this process right along with you) will ease a little of that feeling like you and your decisions are in the spotlight.
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